Posted byu/NomadFire 1 day ago
I been corrected a number of times when I called a Chinese female a "woman". They prefer to be called girls. I have not figured out how they define it.
But it appears that you can be a girl from the time you are 15 to mid 30s. It has nothing to do with virginity. But if you get married you are a woman. Even if you don't have kids. And even if you get a divorce and you are in your early 20s. They really don't like to be called women.
I am not sure how big of a deal it is in other countries. In the USA we call females "women" depending on how they act but usually has something to do after their first mensural cycle or at the very latest when they turn 21. It is a title most people are proud of.
And if you call an American female a "girl" when they are older than 25 it is usually consider an insult. To some level calling them females is also an insult.
The only other similar instance I know about is in Germany you shouldn't call any woman of any age range a "fraulein". Even when it is the proper term for them. It is some sort of insult now.
Not sure if this is a regional thing I only really heard about it from females from the Yunnan area. And only got it from 3 different females.
YangKyle 3 points·1 day ago
My wife is 29 if I call her a woman she'll get pissed at me. I think but am not sure its like a title thing. In China woman seems to not refer to a specific age range but rather "girls" who are older than you and could classify as "ayi." I don't think my wife would mind if a kid called her a woman but would be very upset if someone our age did.
TheMediumPanda 2 points·1 day ago
Sounds about right. I think there could be somewhat of a generation gap at play too with people in the 18 to -say- 40 range seeing themselves and China as vastly different from the pre-2000s. They're much more individualistic than their parents' generation and it shows in a number of ways. In the "old" days yes the divider would definitely be set around marriage and children. The other generation issue has something to do with addressing people from your own rough age range. If you are 25 then it it considered somewhat rude to refer to anyone between 18 and 35 as "women" instead using the terms older/younger sister. People definitely get stuck with the term "girl" here and it's probably down to a cocktail of reasons.
NomadFire 1 point·1 day ago。
It is nice I am not the only one who has experienced this.